Monthly Archives: May 2012

Sagging Socks

Many years ago I had bought a package of socks; I think it was a set of three. They were great through a couple of washings, but then they began to sag. I didn’t mind because I had a pair of Bass leather booties that came up to my ankle and the socks sagged over the top of the boot and concealed the fact that they were booties. The sagging socks with the booties looked way better whenever I was wearing shorts, especially when I wore my baggy shorts.
I can remember coming out of a relationship with a woman who was critical and controlling. I recall the first time that I bumped into her at the grocery store after our break up. I had a basket loaded with my choices. I watched as she scanned over my grocery choices and I could tell that she was judging me based on the pickings in the basket. I could feel her doing it, and then she commented to prove my theory by saying “oh, gourmet coffee, you must be doing well at work.” That comment told me that she was looking for something to say that could make me feel stupid as usual. I felt invaded as she scanned over the basket of goods. We said our goodbyes and I checked out feeling like I should shop somewhere else.
Time had passed and she came to my job for some reason. We were exchanging keys or something of that nature. As I walked toward her I could see her staring at my sagging socks. The first thing she said to me was “you sure do love those sagging socks.” My first reaction was to feel ashamed of the choice I made, but then as I left her I realized that no, I didn’t love the sagging socks. I mean I didn’t sit around visualizing and hoping to someday I could have sagging socks. When the socks appeared, I found a way to like them. I found a way to make them work. I found a way to use them.
The moral of the story is that you can love the most beautiful of things, the most expensive of things and the most sought after of things, but when it comes down to it, you can choose to love what appears. That is where our happiness lies.
With all that said, I sure do miss my sagging socks.


Posted by on May 29, 2012 in Uncategorized


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A Memorial to a Different Soldier

Memorial Day was meant to honor the men and women that fight for our freedom. They go out in hostile territory and fight those that mean to harm the world. So in honor of those that fight every day, to the death to see to it that the world is safe, I say THANK YOU!
Today though, I’d like to introduce a new soldier. This soldier is not at war. This soldier stands at the same moral standard that any civilized society would consider an asset to the world. This soldier is rarely recognized. With no uniform, medals, or ceremonies to pay tribute to his/her contributions, it’s hard to know who they are. They march next to us at work. They serve as peacekeepers and mentors at home. This soldier understands that the only weapon that can be used to harm another is hate, fear and judgment. This soldier fights silently, understanding the natural order of things. This soldier does not move the earth; this soldier contributes to the movement of the earth
Why am I introducing this soldier? I do so because every one of us, in our own way, is that soldier. We get up every day and strive for what is most important to us. No matter how simple the mission we are called to, we answer.
The acknowledgement of this soldier isn’t important to the soldier though. It is important for us to see, recognize, and show value to the soldiers in our lives. The soldier that helps us to continue marching when we fall, the soldier that opens our eyes when we really want to keep them closed, and the soldier who says nothing at all when that is what we most need. This is the soldier that I would like to pay tribute to today.
So to all of you that carry your friends when they can’t make it on their own, to all of you that quietly keep the peace in the loudest of places, and to all of you that care enough about the world to know that we are in it together…
This Memorial Day I will be tipping a cheer to you.

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Posted by on May 25, 2012 in Uncategorized


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Love is…

A message from the universe @

To clarify, Ramona, the primary roles of LOVE are not to heal, fix, or mend. Not to soothe, cure, or ease. Not even to refresh, rejuvenate, or restore. Hardly.

The primary roles of LOVE, Ramona, are to “Yahoo!” “Yeehaa!” and “Whoohooo!”

Get your love on,
The Universe

You were born to love, Ramona, no matter the cost, no matter what someone else said, and no matter how the past once played out.

It’s interesting that I happen to be reading the book “A different kind of Love” by Veronique Corbett. It’s an easy read but the message is as clear as the one above. If you are looking to change your mind about love, then get this book now.

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Posted by on May 23, 2012 in Uncategorized


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What are these skeletons that everyone is so busy hiding and hiding from? Politicians have them, great musicians have them, and even Hitler had skeletons. The reality is that we all have them. Every single one of us has skeletons. Yes, in part I’m talking about your bone structure. This skeleton that I speak of is the “bones” of where you once were before you became who you are. Let’s dig.
I found the original hard copy of “Hardwired” and as I read the first ten pages I had to chuckle. The original version was written in 2006 and to be quite honest I thought that was it. This “skeleton” version of the book was raw. It was the bare bones of the great work that was to come.
Our lives are much the same. We start out with a bare structure of who we are. We learn from the things we do and as for me, I tend to learn more from the mistakes that I make. It is then that I begin to shave off behavior that hurts me or others. It is then that I am focused on change. The change required to make a positive impact rather than becoming an energy thief. What I give the world; I get back exactly the same. Every word I put out comes back. Every thought manifests. And every action of course we all know this, has a reaction, which brings us full circle again. Every word I put out comes back. Now I say that just one day after posting “The death of Beth” and it may seem hypocritical, but as I said before, I learn more from my mistakes. That is what I get to show by sharing old writings. I can show what I was thinking, how I have been progressing, and where I come from.
As a writer I have the advantage to be able to look back and visit with the old me. For those that don’t write, there is other evidence. Our lives are the canvas upon which we begin to show our inner thoughts and growth. We draw upon it daily as we state our expectations and speak our desires.
What does any of this have to do with skeletons? This canvas is our skeleton. I can understand wanting to hide some things, but you can’t. It’s on the canvas. It shows up in smaller details maybe, but it is there. Its part of who we were before our words and thoughts began to create the picture before us today.
So the next time you get to hear about the skeletons in the closet, remember your own and celebrate that you are no longer bones. You are closer to being whole, again.

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Posted by on May 22, 2012 in Uncategorized


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The death of Beth

I never wanted to publish this poem because:
a.) I ‘m not a fan of poetry
b.) therefore, I hate to write it.

The thing is that I met a poet named Beth. She could recite poetry at the drop of a word. She read poetry, she wrote poetry and she made sure everyone knew it.
We were good friends until one day we weren’t anymore. She loved women. She loved many. She always had a woman in her bed. Then one day she ran out of women and she turned to me. I wasn’t interested, at least not in that. She retaliated harshly. I let it be. About two years ago I got extremely drunk and I started thinking about Beth. How she tortured me for three days, filling my voice mail and text space with the sound of her retaliation. How she kept my valuables. Things that she knew I valued because they were gifts from people that I loved. I grabbed a pen and began to write a poem about her. It was appropriate. I hated poems and at that moment, I hated Beth too. This is what came of the combination of alcohol, poetry and resentment.

The Death Of Beth

I wanted to write a story about someone once a friend of mine
but I wanted all the words to rhyme
see she was a poet
or so she claimed
So I felt the pressure
To do the same
Her name was Beth and as we grew
I wrote a book
And she got a tatoo
It was the name of a woman she loved
There were so many names that the image was blurred
And somehow, someway
We couldn’t tell to whom she referred

More and more Marijuana she smoked
Until the day an emergency spoke
“I am in control”
That’s what she said
But like all of us
One day she’ll be dead

Until then as her once friend
Her craziness I can no longer defend
I’ll promote her all day
Not for me, no way

No such person
That’s what she wrote
on a letter of mine
But I can not read it
Cause I’m out on the boat

Beth I hope that in a lifetime you learn
You could be buried or placed in an Urn


Posted by on May 21, 2012 in Uncategorized


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A card from the beloved Bryce

One of my long term relationships was with Bryce. We were together almost seven years. Bryce was strong and financially stable. She shared my Cuban culture and I always thought we were the perfect couple. Always that is until we broke up.
As I was digging up the “neither here nor there” entry, I found a greeting card from Bryce. It wasn’t my birthday or anything like that. It was a simple “are we great together or what?” card. In it she wrote:
I want you to know that I support you in any decision you make. (as long as it’s a safe one) And I believe in you. No matter what you are or what you do, you will always be Ramona. Remember what I told you-the important thing always is that you be happy and comfortable where you are and where you are going.
I love you,

I read this sixteen years later and laugh because it was classic of the relationship I built with this woman. “I support your decision as long as it is safe?” I was a barber. What the hell was she thinking? I’m not a who but a what. And how comfortable should that card have made me feel?


Posted by on May 20, 2012 in Uncategorized


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Monday March 30, 1992 vs Friday May 17,2012

This is a journal entry from Monday March 30, 1992
I was 30 years old.

It’s kind of a strange day. I’m neither here nor there, no fear to consume me today.
The weekend was quite relaxing and I have had a chance to speak to God. I only wonder why he doesn’t speak back. Could I handle it if he did? The question of obedience comes into play. Does he only speak to loyal church goers?
I pray every day and I tremble at the thought of not having a God.

Twenty years later, on May 17, 2012 I wrote these words:
I’ve spent the last week mulling over what to write about. I have felt stuck in that space of neither here nor there. Not really in one place… or another. Kind of the way atoms disappear and suddenly appear. Where do they go? Do you ever catch yourself there?
I quickly recognized that I had been there before. I could remember the color of the journal in which I mentioned the “neither here nor there” place. I dug up the old notebook and found the exact entry. I have never been a fan of sharing my entries because it shows the skeleton upon which I have built upon to become the whole person that I am today.

We will talk skeletons later.

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Posted by on May 19, 2012 in Uncategorized


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