One of my long term relationships was with Bryce. We were together almost seven years. Bryce was strong and financially stable. She shared my Cuban culture and I always thought we were the perfect couple. Always that is until we broke up.
As I was digging up the “neither here nor there” entry, I found a greeting card from Bryce. It wasn’t my birthday or anything like that. It was a simple “are we great together or what?” card. In it she wrote:
Baby,
I want you to know that I support you in any decision you make. (as long as it’s a safe one) And I believe in you. No matter what you are or what you do, you will always be Ramona. Remember what I told you-the important thing always is that you be happy and comfortable where you are and where you are going.
I love you,
Bryce
3/10/95

I read this sixteen years later and laugh because it was classic of the relationship I built with this woman. “I support your decision as long as it is safe?” I was a barber. What the hell was she thinking? I’m not a who but a what. And how comfortable should that card have made me feel?